Comments on: If your spouse engaged in this type of communication with his/her ex would you trust her again?

By: divagaldiva

divagaldiva — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 14:09:32 +0000

I see nothing wrong with these emails. Just because she is talking to her ex doesn’t mean she wants to be with him or that she doesn’t love you. it doesn’t even seem like they are trying to flirt the male actually sound like he is only talking to her because he doesn’t want to be rude…..i wouldnt worry about it.

By: silly me

silly me — Sun, 19 Dec 2010 09:49:43 +0000

To be honest – there’s no harm in their correspondance. I understand what its like to be the new one on the scene but you cannot tell her who she can and cannot see or speak to. She spent years with this man & honestly its good to see she’s still on good terms with him. You need to stop spying on her and let her do her own thing. If you keep pushing her away from him – she’ll end up back with him – do you get what I mean??

Sometimes after a divorce you miss your ex’s friendship, thats what they’re building. She chose you so be happy about it but you need to get over her ex. If you cant handle them being friends – then end the relationship. You obviously dont trust her so whats the point in being with her?? To upset yourself & argue with her? Come on, wake up start being mature or get over it!

By: Sweet_Di

Sweet_Di — Sat, 18 Dec 2010 03:31:44 +0000

there is no reason not to trust her yet. she never mentioned meeting up with him. now if she did what my husband did then you would have the right to be pissed. my husband added an ex girlfriend from college on his facebook and lied to me told me she was not an ex. Well i got on his facebook and he messaged her and called her sweet heart then i asked again if she was an ex he said no well a couple weeks later i got a bad feeling so i went on his facebook and she messaged him saying sorry i missed your call. I told her who i was she told me she is an ex from college and she is the one he took on spring break to florida and he had been calling for on his cellphone behind my back for 3 months. I put a stop to that. he knows i do not trust him and i dont believe what he says. i dont know if they were going to hook up he would not call her and talk to her infront of me he deleted her number from his phone.

By: contessa

contessa — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 19:06:32 +0000

I’m confused! How did you get into her e-mails to read them? Did she give you concerns about not trusting her? Apparently he is in the lime-light and she still has his e-mail address and she thought that she saw him. (I wonder why they got divorced!) I saw no reason for you not to trust her because she never told him that she missed him or wanted to see him. Sometime when you have a past with an ex; some time you just want to discuss an issue with someone who you will think understands.

By: Danielle

Danielle — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 23:31:24 +0000

I don’t see anything in those emails that would give you cause not to trust your partner.
To be honest, they are the most boring emails I have ever read and if that is all they have to talk about then I really wouldn’t worry.

Remember some people can stay very good friends after a break up. It doesn’t mean they have feelings for each other.
My parents are divorced and have both married other people yet they remain the best of friends. There is a huge difference between ‘loving’ someone and being ‘in love’ with someone.

The question I have to ask though is, why were you going through the emails? I feel there is a lack of trust there anyway or you wouldn’t have felt the need to do this.

By: oddball

oddball — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 09:00:45 +0000

of course.i have had nights out with my ex wife, we know each other inside out, i wouldn’t choose her over my wife though, i cant see your problem. now if he/she was nasty to an ex, then i would worry.

By: TheOne

TheOne — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 09:44:03 +0000

Why are yu reading her email.

I see nothing inappropriate.

Peace.

By: Nickaroni

Nickaroni — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 06:13:04 +0000

Well, just by the fact that she said she will stop and didn’t would make me not trust her. It doesn’t seem that harmful to me, I’m sure you sometimes wonder about X’s, no?

It seems pretty harmless, if it bothers you just talk to her about it. Or tell her you want to read the correspondence, although she must know you have been already.

Good luck!

By: no1advice

no1advice — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 03:55:40 +0000

Too long to read but I get the gist she is cheating or thinking of cheating which is enough….drop her asss now.

By: corndogs

corndogs — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 19:23:30 +0000

1. Why are you reading her email?
2. I see nothing inappropriate. A bit insecure, are we?