Comments on: Do you think that the following is appropriate communication between a married woman and her ex husband?

By: Wilhelmina

Wilhelmina — Sun, 30 Jan 2011 15:23:36 +0000

Too much and too uninteresting anyway.

By: do i care?

do i care? — Sun, 30 Jan 2011 10:56:01 +0000

No wonder its communication between ex’s. What a bloody boring couple

By: Mai C

Mai C — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 13:29:47 +0000

I honestly cannot see anything wrong with any of it. Why would anyone take offence to anything there unless that anyone was totally insecure?

Nothing fishy there.

By: Townes

Townes — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 03:43:40 +0000

I don’t see anything inappropriate. Though they both sound boring to me. I agree that promises ought to be kept, but none of this sounds even mildly flirtatious.

By: J

Tue, 25 Jan 2011 19:49:16 +0000

Umm… I honestly don’t see what the problem is. From your question I was expecting a full blown out argument but I can’t find any problem with these emails, just two exs talking and catching up with each other. If you don’t want your ex to talk to you, you definitely should make that a lot more clear than this because I did not get a hint at all that either person in this conversation did not want to talk to the other person or was bothering them. What makes a conversation inappropriate or appropriate is not who is having it or what is said but rather how the people involved in the conversation feel about it and what they have done to correct any negative feelings. In this conversation there’s no indication of ill feeling, much less any attempt to correct any problems with ill feeling. There’s absolutely no problem to address.

If you do have a problem with this, it’s a good time to sit down and consider what your problem is and what you’re going to do to resolve it. It’s definitely not anything “wrong” with the conversation itself but perhaps something in the conversation is triggering old memories of mistreatment and you have yet to put your finger on what it is that is triggering you. That’s ok and completely normal, just remember while you’re trying to figure it out that it’s not going to be something someone else can tell you. We’re not going to be able to see what your problem is because it’s internal and not external.

I highly recommend reading up on healthy communication skills and setting boundaries. This will really help in accomplishing your goal in a manner that is healthy and balanced for all involved.

Best wishes!

P.S. Aha, I just realized you must be her boyfriend or something. Rest assured there’s nothing suspicious about these communications. When people get divorced it’s not like they necessarily stop caring about each other forever, they may have just found that they do not work together as marriage partners.

By: eharrah1

eharrah1 — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 05:57:51 +0000

What’s wrong with it? Two people that once meant a lot to each other keeping up. Are you the jealous new person in the relationship that can’t stand your boyfriend to be friends with his ex? Get over it or you will not last too long.

By: JACKIE R

JACKIE R — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 06:42:19 +0000

First of all, I find it disturbing that you have this communication avaialble to post on the internet, you may be ex husband number 2 if she finds out.
Secondly, you must understand that it’s normal for ex’s to talk..they did after all spend a life together and probably still have alot in common even if they are no longer compatible.

Lastly, you might want to ask yourself why she is seeking out someone to have a conversation with…what you posted seems innocent enough,but she may be lonely if you are not spending time with her like you should or if you are not available for meaningful conversation. The worst feeling in the world for a woman is to feel alone even when she’s not. Instead of posting this nonsense on the internet, you should probably talk to your wife first or better yet, just spend some quality time with her, take her out..actually talk to her and respond to her.

Good luck.

By: Gia

Gia — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 18:21:34 +0000

No way I am reading this crap! You must be bored today or drunk as a skunk.

By: Married

Married — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 23:39:39 +0000

OOOOH YEEEAH! I can smellllll the curry!